You should have an advance directive for yourself, and so should the person you care for. This article has important information for anyone who is getting their paperwork in order.
Once you have thought through what matters most and chosen a healthcare decision maker (aka your “healthcare agent”), you will want to have several key conversations and then put your thoughts in writing. The document that assembles all that information in a legal format is called an “advance directive.” The idea is that you are directing people ahead of time about the healthcare decisions you would like made for you if you are not able to communicate them at the time.
An advance directive is actually two documents in one:
Healthcare power of attorney. This document names your decision maker. That role is called by different names in different states. You may hear it called “healthcare agent,” “healthcare proxy,” or “healthcare surrogate.” The point is to pick a person you trust whom the doctors can work with to make decisions in your stead.
Living will. This document expresses your preferences about end-of-life care. Often it includes your thoughts about what life support measures you want used to forestall death versus how much you would prefer being kept comfortable but let nature take its course.
These documents come into play only if you are unable to make decisions for yourself (for instance, you are unconscious, or you have moderate to advanced dementia). If you do become able to make decisions again, you are back in the driver’s seat. These documents will continue to be applicable should there be a future time when you need someone to step in.
Forms vary by state, as do the rules for when they apply. For instance, two physicians may need to certify that you are unable to make decisions on your own. In some states they must also agree about the condition that makes that so (e.g., terminal illness, permanent unconsciousness). If you regularly spend time in two states, it’s optimal to have documents drafted using the preferred format in each state.
They are legally binding, but you can change them at any time. They are legal documents. Doctors will honor your wishes if these documents are brought forward. If for some reason there is a legal dispute, the courts will refer to what you have written in your advance directive. As soon as they are signed, they are legally binding. That said, you can always make a new one. The most recently dated document available at the time is the one that will be followed.
Emergency medical technicians (EMTs) cannot be bound by the advance directive. If someone has called 911, then the assumption is that all measures are to be implemented in the journey from home to the hospital. Time is of the essence and they cannot be held up with finding and verifying paperwork, finding and verifying the healthcare agent. [haspolst] Our state has a (), which is an additional form completed by the doctor that very succinctly gives orders about specific treatments. If you are seriously ill, ask your doctor to complete a . Keep it on the refrigerator door. Emergency personnel are instructed to look there to see if other orders are in place besides their default instructions to do everything to keep you alive.[/haspolst]
A word about living trusts, living wills, and wills. Unfortunately, these are very different documents with very similar names, which may lead to some confusion.
A “living trust” involves guidance concerning financial decisions if at any point you are unable to manage your monetary affairs. In it, you pick a trustee to make those decisions in your stead.
A “living will” involves guidance concerning medical decisions if at any point you are unable to make your own healthcare decisions.
A “will” is a legal document that comes into play after you die. It describes how you want your possessions distributed. It does not address who makes financial decisions for you if you need help with that before you pass on.
Creating the advance directive is only half the job. It also should be stored in a place where it can be readily accessed in time of need.
You will want to make several copies of the advance directive. Distribute them to people or places where they can be readily retrieved. Medical emergencies happen at odd hours, for instance. You DON’T want to have the only copy in a safe deposit box or at the attorney’s office.
Consider a copy each for:
The healthcare decision maker and any alternates
Key family members
At home, with a big label in a place where others would think to look
The primary care physician
Other specialists
The attorney
Any faith leader (clergy)
The local hospital
With emergency medical documents (a prepared collection of papers assembled specifically for going to the ER. It generally has the list of doctors, list of medications, medical history, etc.)
In a theft-proof, fireproof, flood-proof location, such as a safe deposit box, as long as that isn’t the only spot
There is no limit on the number of copies. You just want to keep a list of where they have been distributed. Likely updates will be made over the years. You want to know who to send the updated version to.
Digital storage
There are several ways to make the advance directive available digitally. This way, anyone with the password can access it, no matter where they are. Consider:
Medical alert services
Health apps available for iPhone and Android systems
The electronic medical record of your physician and the local hospital
More and more state governments are offering digital storage options for advance directives. You can also check for online services offered by nonprofit and for-profit organizations. They will have forms to fill out online and store on their server.
Our priorities shift as we age. People move. Relationships may change. There are many reasons to update an advance directive. Experiencing the serious illness of a friend or family member often causes some rethinking about end-of-life decisions.
It is recommended that both the living will (which gives guidance for medical interventions) and the healthcare decision maker be reviewed and updated at these key life junctures:
Receiving a serious diagnosis. Our perspective on what matters most often changes within a new health context. It’s good to revisit key conversations and consider who will be the best advocate if it becomes necessary.
Significant life events, such as widowhood, divorce, or getting married.
Moving to a new state. A document from another state may be honored, but it’s most prudent to complete the form required by the new state of residence.
Once every ten years, perhaps at the turn of a decade (for example, fiftieth, sixtieth, seventieth birthdays)
Going on a big trip. Traveling may engender risks that warrant some thinking ahead of time.
In addition to reviewing documents, it’s wise to touch base with the healthcare decision maker, at the least to reaffirm they are still willing to serve in that role. But also to discuss any revisions or refinements made to the living will.
If changes are made, it is recommended that a brand-new document be created. Send the updated version to everyone who received the original. Ask them to toss out the previous advance directive and replace it with the new one.
This testimonial is long overdue. Both my father and mother were clients of Caring Strategies from the beginning of the company. They guided us ten years in all, helping arrange quality services so Dad could age in place, and helping find the best services for Mom when she needed assisted living care and later memory care. The amazing staff were always supportive, knowledgeable, and resourceful, which was invaluable because I live 1300 miles away and was not familiar with systems and options. They answered every question, responded to my requests, and identified needs that I did not recognize. I highly recommend Caring Strategies!
Jeannie and her team work for you for placement and, as you wish, support after placement, with professionalism. They mean it when they boldly use "caring" in their name.
Through the years, my clients have always appreciated the dedication and professionalism that this team provides. A great resource in our community, and so helpful! Thank you all.
What a blessing!! We would have never found such a loving and caring place for mom without the help of Caring Strategies. As we struggled knowing the type of facility mom was limited to and the accommodations she required, this organization gave us the hope we needed and pointed us in the right direction. We will be forever grateful for their help!
What an excellent resource for the senior community! I work with this agency on a professional level and they provide unbiased opinions that help seniors and their families navigate the medical community, local programs & resources available to them. The staff is so kind & caring. They make a hard time in one's life a little easier to manage!
They are wonderful. They take such good care of their families and clients. They give them peace of mind and are an excellent resource in the community. I can’t say enough!
I have worked with this organization professionally for a number of years. I have always found their services to be beneficial to clients who need help navigating the waters when trying to make difficult decisions. Caring Strategies has an excellent reputation in the senior services industry and is a company that you can trust. The team will have your family's best interests at heart.
As a provider of services for the elderly, I have worked with the Caring Strategies team in several instances and I am always so impressed with the caring and professional way in which they do business. In many instances, they are working with individuals who are at an age where they are not only losing their independence in areas, but they are also at the point in life where they need help - both of these are among the most difficult things to accept. The team at Caring Strategies is able to come in and provide the needed service in a dignified and caring manner, which allows all involved to feel more at ease and confident knowing their needs are being met in a safe and dignified manner. I highly recommend giving them a call to discuss how they can help in your situation.
If I could give 10+ stars for Caring Strategies I would!!! The Owner, Jeanie Tauss a Certified Care Manager has a heart of gold and it shines through her entire team. Each team member are such caring souls and combined with their extensive backgrounds they are able to provide the support and guidance that their clients/families need. They have gone above and beyond to help me and I'm so grateful for them!!!
Carin Strategies is a lifesaver for families looking for assistance with their aging loved ones who need guidance and direction on care where it be at home or in a senior living community. Their team is very professional and experts in helping family caregivers find a solution in navigating this process.
The Caring Strategies professionals and staff were just wonderful. Having moved to the area during the pandemic and under very stressful/difficult circumstances, Jeanie was a calm and comforting support. Carla and Jeanie both were very supportive, encouraging, and professional. Can't thank them enough. I recommend those who maybe caring for older adults in their lives to consider consulting with Caring Strategies.
What a great resource we have in Caring Strategies! Even if you think you know all the resources for elderly care, set up a consultation with Caring Strategies to know what you may not know.Last year, my mother had a sudden health decline. As I didn't know all the resources available to her, I followed up on a recommendation to find a senior care specialist. Jeanie Tauss' guidance allowed me to ask the right questions, see the right people, and find the perfect solution for my mother's needs. Mother is so happy and healthy a year later.